Using Donors
Many childless parents have been helped to become parents by using sperm, eggs, and even embryos given by other people. Surrogacy is also a form of donation-a woman donates her uterus to bear another couple’s biological child. Emotional costs can be high for all concerned, and all the issues need to be talked about openly.
Donor Insemination
The use of donor sperm can be an option in the following situations: when the male partner is sterile or has a very low sperm count that does not respond to treatment; for a couple with a major blood group incompatibility-for example, for a Rhesusnegative woman who has developed antibodies to the Rhesuspositive blood of her partner; when either partner carries a hereditary abnormality; or when a mature, stable, single woman wants a child but not a partner.
Donor insemination (DI) can look like an ideal solution for people in these situations, but there are a number of points that need careful thought. First, the feelings of your partner-some men feel inadequate or even jealous of donors who impregnate their partners. These feelings can affect your life together, and your child once it is born. In addition, some women are repelled by the way they are going to conceive or by the fact that a different man’s sperm is used at each visit. Others worry about what kind of man the donor was, or idealize him as a “perfect man.” They wonder if their child could unknowingly meet, and perhaps marry, a half-sibling. Using sperm from a donor that you know, or are related to by marriage, can relieve some of these problems, but it can make others worse. It also raises its own problems, such as what happens if the father wants visiting rights.
Most couples feel hesitant about this method of conception, and it’s exceedingly stressful, so you do need good counseling. You can insist that there is no mention of DI in your maternity records, and your and your partner’s names can be given on the birth certificate. The procedure is covered by law in many, but not all, states. All doctors should be familiar with the donor insemination laws in their state. Currently, donors are anonymous, but it has recently been suggested that their personal information should be kept on file. If children conceived this way want to know their donor’s identity once they reach adulthood, they could then be told, provided the donor agrees. Children born from donor insemination have routine pregnancy care and are not at increased risk of pregnancy complications.
Egg Donation
If a woman is unable to produce an egg herself, donor eggs may be used during IVF treatment. Egg donation does have the advantage that both of you are involved: your partner fertilizes the egg, and you will carry and give birth to the baby. However, it’s more complicated than sperm donation-hormonal drugs have to be taken and the eggs collected by surgical techniques-so donor eggs are hard to come by. The main sources are relatives, unknown donors (who, like sperm donors, will no longer have the right to anonymity), and IVF patients who may donate extra eggs produced during their treatment.
There can be problems with egg donation. For example, eggs donated by IVF mothers have an increased risk of chromosomal disorders because IVF patients tend to be older than average. When relatives or friends donate eggs, there can be tensions later. If you’re not producing eggs, you probably won’t be menstruating, and this means that the lining of your uterus (endometrium) will be thin and incapable of nourishing a developing embryo. Consequently, you’ll need to be given drugs to stimulate it to thicken so that the embryo can implant.
Embryo Donation
A couple who have been through IVF treatment may sometimes wish to donate unused frozen embryos to a childless couple. The embryo is implanted and the woman gives birth to the “adopted” child. Feelings run high on this, and many sensitive issues have been raised. For example, how would the donor parents feel if their own child, or children, die? And what are the chances of the siblings meeting and perhaps having children together?
Selecting Semen and Embryos
Semen Fresh semen is usually frozen and stored before being used for donor insemination. After collection, the semen is put into a sterile vial and frozen by immersing it in liquid nitrogen. It’s then stored while the clinic tests it and the donor for infections. The donor is tested to make sure that he’s free of infections, such as hepatitis B or HIV, that could be passed on via his semen. Once it’s been determined that the donor was free of infection when he made his donation, the semen is tested for harmful microorganisms, such as bacteria; if these tests prove negative, semen can then be used for insemination.
Up to 50 percent of sperm in the semen do not survive the freezing and thawing. This fall in sperm numbers is partly offset by the fact that it’s the healthiest, most robust sperm that do survive. Donor insemination is carried out under the same conditions as artificial insemination with sperm from a partner.
Embryos Storage of frozen embryos prevents embryo wastage if several embryos have been fertilized-no more than two are replaced in any cycle because of the risk of multiple pregnancy-and can help another infertile couple. Pregnancies resulting from the use of frozen embryos have raised the success rate of a cycle of IVF treatment from one to 10 percent.
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